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Now, you don't have to be a JERK, you just have to know how to be emotionally STRONG. JERKS don't need to be emotionally strong, because they really are constantly focusing on a new woman, and really don't have much emotion invested in any ONE woman. GOOD GUYS must have the strength to not fall under a woman's spell and to be able to IMMEDIATELY walk away from a woman should she disrespect him. And he must CONVEY this through his behavior, not through direct communication and words.

Direct communication is weak, since it involves very little mental effort on the other side. Sometimes just a disinterested LOOK can say more than a thousand words. And because it's harder to be a good guy than to be jerk, many guys get seduced by the *dark side*. The problem with being a jerk though is that it works on breaking down a woman's self-esteem, and women with low self esteem are in my opinion NO FUN AT ALL.
Second, anything that puts her on a pedestal also reeks of desperation. This includes over-use of compliments, ( I prefer to use none) especially on her beauty. Also, agreeing with everything she says and constant smiling and nodding also reeks of desperation. It says that you are treating her as if she has THE POWER TO MAKE YOU SO DAMN HAPPY- this THROWS ALL THE POWER IN HER COURT, and makes you seem INFERIOR.

After all, if you are not desperate, then why are you getting so excited and happy from her? Let HER smile instead. Giving her too much approval, too much attention, leaning in to her physically or metaphorically, all add up to d-e-s-p-e-r-a-t-i-o-n in her mind. Also, I should mention that acting MEAN does NOT SHOW that you are not desperate, it actually shows that you are indeed bitter and desperate.
 
You are NOT attracted to her on a sexual level because you both enjoy English literature.

So let me tell you the PRIMARY reason SHE would be attracted to YOU:
It would be because you EMANATE MASCULINE POWER through being dominant, confident, and having loads of self-esteem.
This is SEXY AS HELL to her. Everything ELSE is HOGWASH.

When I say everything else, I really do mean EVERYTHING: You know, those things like LOGIC? Or like being a *nice* guy? FORGET IT.

This is why women often love BAD BOYS. BAD BOYS do whatever they want and fear nothing. And they explain NOTHING. You don't have to be a jerk, but you MUST be A MAN. It doesn't COST anything to do this. It's not something that is only available to the rich, or to any other exclusive group.

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